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Is Motherhood What You Always Wanted?

Are we getting what we always wanted? Or are we overwhelmed but the constant need to be needed? Do you remember your single days? The days you would go out with your friends. Every piece of clothing, jewelry, and hair wantedwould be perfectly placed. You’d listen to your favorite music to get ramped up for the evening and walk through clubs with a bravado that everyone would stop and stare. At one point or another, in our lives we all have a desire to be wanted.

The want to be wanted

We’d post pictures of ourselves, or friends, our adventures. We longed for likes, and attention. Some may think this desire attention is something new as a result of the social media sites. I will not deny that these make it more prevalent for a longer period in our lives, but I honestly believe that this want to be wanted has existed long before. Everyone wants to be liked, needed, and wanted.

But something happens when we become mothers. It seems to happen without us realizing it. Suddenly you get the attention, want, and need you’ve wanted! But perhaps not in the exactly manner you originally thought.

wantedBefore you know it, you are constantly hearing your name being called. Sometimes even from multiple sources. You can’t even go to the bathroom in piece.  There is always a knock at the door or a test paper being slide underneath the door for your approval. You are constantly being touched, climbed, pulled, or coughed on. Suddenly that desire to be wanted has shifted from want to have. Now you know what it’s like to have paparazzi following you around!

Is it all You ever Wanted…?

But is it everything you always wanted? Is it just what you always thought it’d be? Well I am here to tell you it’s that, and so much more! And don’t fool yourself, not all of it is good.

To those bright little eyes, you can do no wrong. You are now the center of their world! You may not have the whole world looking up to you, but you have these beautiful bright little eyes watching your every move.  In their younger years they will learn everything from you. They watch you in awe. You are their celebrity.

And without you even realizing it, the shift has taken place. That desire to be wanted by the world; suddenly feels a little less important. If it even ranks at all!  wanted

In the Life of a Celebrity

Now let’s be real for just a minute. This being a celebrity thing, (aka mothering) isn’t easy. You will get overwhelmed, at times you will be running purely on caffeine, and you never seem to know if you are making the right decisions. You will laugh, cry, probably scream, and definitely repeat yourself many, many times. I know at times I ask myself, “am I the only one?”.  Trust me, you are not alone!  These feelings are completely normal! We are human.

But if there is one thing you take away from this today, in light of the approaching Mother’s Day it is this:
No one is perfect. We will all inevitably make mistakes. In those times you must remember: you can do this!

You are beautiful, strong and not along. To those little eyes: You are Superwoman.



26 Comment

  1. I have four kids and being a mother is everything I wanted but it’s so hard! It’s important for moms to realize that we’re not alone and we all feel the same way!

  2. Motherhood is definitely a life changer! Its hard and rewarding and definitely a roller coaster ride. I enjoyed reading your post.

  3. What a beautiful post! I love what you said at the last part of your post. They look up to us. Seeing our kids happy is so priceless.

  4. Love your last line. Moms are superwoman and it’s so amazing what they do. I am thankful that I have the choice on whether or not I want motherhood. A lot of people don’t get that choice.

  5. I wasn’t sure if I wanted children until God surprised me with my first daughter. Once she was born I fell in love with her. Now I have 3 children and my life is all about them. I make sure to set some time for myself but what makes me happy is being around them.

  6. That is totally an inspiring post! It is very hard to be a mother but I think you are great! Thanks for sharing!

  7. Though it’s been quite a few years since I’ve navigated the emotional rollercoaster of raising young children, I look back on those days frequently. Being a mother is the most challenging, unique and rewarding experience of my life and I wouldn’t change it for the world!

  8. Motherhood is hard, but it is so amazing!! It gets even more rewarding I feel like after you go through something that seems hard!!

  9. This is so spot on! My boys are 3 and 5 so I am right in the middle of them both wanting all the attention and wanting to do everything for themselves and not knowing which they want sometimes.

  10. Thank you so much for your great post, sometimes, post like yours make us realize, we are not alone.

    1. Thank you introvertmomblogger! I think there are lots of times we feel like we are the only ones. It’s comforting to know there are others out there!

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