Day of Love
In the spirit of Valentine’s day next week I thought it only fitting to talk to everyone about love. Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not, I am sure you have all heard the old adage: you have to love yourself first, before you can be loved by someone else. Well to be honest, I don’t know if that is true for everyone, but I do know that knowing who you are and what you want before entering in a relationship makes it easier to find the person that best fits you. However, that is not what I am here to talk about today. Today is about loving yourself, so that you can better love your children.
What do I mean by that?
I mean that as a parent you love and care for your kids, your significant other, your friends, your family, just about everyone. That’s our job as a parent, right? To nurture, to protect, and to love. It comes so naturally and we love being able to care for others this way. But what no one wants to admit, is that it can be so draining! At times it can drain your energy and even your spirit!
What they don’t tell you is that you need to also love yourself. Love yourself enough to take time to do something you like to do. Love yourself enough to get a full night’s sleep for once. Love yourself enough to do something that makes you feel beautiful. You are allowed to have some guilty pleasures. You are allowed to take time for yourself, and you are allowed to do all of those things without feeling guilty about it!
Make Them Feel Loved
I became a mother at the age of 23, a divorced mother of 2; a 4 year-old, and a one year old with no support at age 29. I was determined to make them feel loved and supported and I devoted as much of my none working time to them as I could spare. It worked, for a time. But what I soon realized was that as much as I loved my children, I was exhausted and stressed and irritable. I needed to reenergize and the only way I knew how was to take some time, away from them, just for me. So one night I got a babysitter for a couple of hours and I met up with some friends. And you know what? They were just fine!! They barely noticed I was gone, and loved playing with the babysitter!
Then when I began to make this a regular occurrence I started to really see the difference it was making, not just in my outlook on life, but in the way I interacted with my kids. When I was with them, I was happier, I was less stressed, and I was more fun. What I discovered was that during the time I was re-energizing, I was allowing my brain time to sort through whatever was on my mind. It allowed me to actually be present with them when I was there.
Just because you have become a parent, doesn’t mean that you have to lose sight of who you are as a person. You can want, and do, all the same things you did before! All without feeling guilty.
So over the next few weeks, as you are taking time to show your love and appreciation for those in your life I want to challenge you to take some time for yourself as well. Start with just 10 minutes a day, or 1 hour a week and take note of how it makes you feel. Do something that makes you happy; start journaling, or find a hobby that you love, learn a new skill, take a bubble bath, start a new workout routine, or read a book. Whatever you decide do it for you, do it for your kids, do it for your sanity!
By practicing self love we are showing our children that we should respect and love ourselves too, and that acknowledging your self- worth is just as important as taking time to acknowledge and love those around you.
If you have any suggested sanity saving ideas for us comment or email what you do to show yourself some love! 💕 I love hearing from you!